Working mom guilt
In my Balancing Act column tomorrow, I will have a Q & A with Tori Johnson, CEO of Women For Hire and workplace contributor to Good Morning America. Tori is originally from Miami Beach and now lives in New York. She's a mother of twin 8-year-olds. Tori has been working to help women gain control over their work/life balance. She has great tips for negotiating flexible schedules and for finding legitimate work at home jobs. One of my favorite advice columns by Tori is her advice for working mom guilt, that sinking feeling moms get when they travel and miss out on special moments. And, as the holidays approach, you just might have to miss the holiday show.
Her advice: "Sometimes it's just not possible to attend a school function. I try other backup options to avoid missing my kids in action, but I'm a firm believer that no play or performance is worth risking your job over.
Tori suggests these simple solutions for keeping your kids content:
* Talk to the teacher about attending a dress rehearsal instead of the official performance or ask a family member, friend or fellow class parent to videotape the performance for you.
* Don't show your guilt. If missing out on a school event is inevitable, I suggest not drawing too much attention to your absence. Making a big deal out of it leads the children to think there's something bad or wrong with mom not being there, which isn't true.
* Give your boss as much notice as possible to ask for a few hours off or a personal vacation day. Sometimes there are must-attend functions.
For more advice and career strategies, visit womenforhire.com.