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Thursday, September 06, 2007

Should more of us be like Shaunie?


I read The Miami Herald column on Shaq filing for divorce and thought, "Wow, was Shuunie smart enough to be minding the finances while Shaq was minding the game?"

If so, I thought to myself, good for her. How many women who bring home the bacon know intimately about their family finances? I'd make an educated guess that the majority don't. Whether your are male or female, the worst thing you can do is to ignore money matters while you're married.

Here's what Shaq alleges in the court documents: Shaunie, he says, has been ''secretive about her assets . . . particularly with respect to certain properties owned or titled in either [her] name alone or in other entities.'' He wants the court to order Shaunie to give a ''correct accounting of all money, funds, stocks, bonds, and other securities (including bearer securities)'' that she came into during the marriage.

It looks like Shaq is learning the No. 1 financial mistake most women make: Nothing makes you more vulnerable than ignoring money matters while you're married.

40 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't understand him getting upset about her having other ventures outside of their marriage. As long as she wasn't bankrupting him why is he really upset?

12:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

He's upset bscause he trusted her and she broke that trust.

2:09 PM  
Blogger ms.independent said...

what is the real deal? is it really a money issue or more of a controlling issue? If this is real love then he would be for her totally. this still benefits the family. remember she may want to also contribute to her kids when it is all said and done and they say ashes to ash her kids can say both parents worked hard.true love will not let money ruin your marriage unless it was never based on love in the beginning.trust is not built on a money issue it is built on a foundation of love. True love doesent carry a price tag also.

looking for true love

2:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ok ladies pic on Shaq.It is all about being true. One for all, all for one.

4:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think his wanting to account for her other ventures outside of the marriage relates simply to dividing marital assets in the event of a divorce. He realizes that he's Shaq, and can't hide anything. And if his assets have to split, so should hers. I think they made a great couple.

4:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think it's simply a matter of wanting to have everything financial out in the open so the assets can be divided equally.

7:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm not mad @ her you damm save all the money you can from his ass when thing go done at least she know that she was saving all at least she did a smart move he just mad get over it shaq

11:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why is he upset??? She kept secrets. Secrets indicating that she obviously didn't enter into this marriage thinking it would work out. She kept secrets indicating SHE didn't trust HIM. Yeah, yeah, yeah before some respond that he did the same by having a prenump, I say hog wash. When you have that much money, sadly, a prenump needs to be a given. Men do what she has done all the time and it makes him an A-hole when it comes to light. Sorry, but I think she's an A-hole also. I can imagine that he's very hurt by it. I haven't read many stories about this and like you, I don't have all the details. Did she have her own source of income coming in or was she taking his money to finance her own little ventures. I suspect the latter...which REALLY makes it wrong. PS...I'm a woman and this is how I feel about it.

12:44 AM  
Anonymous bigmoneygrip said...

small potatoes...he will only become richer.

3:17 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The problem I have with the whole thing is the fact that it was a "secret". Who knows what she could have been financing. When the IRS comes looking for their cut, they look at ALL the assets. Look at how many other celebrities we have seen get caught up in not taking care of financial matters. If you can't trust your spouse who can you trust? It does not matter male or female. It is clear Shaq trusted her and look what happened.
....female point of view...

3:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think that you all are missing the boat. They signed a prenup..great. But if Shaunie felt that their marriage was on the rocks, Shaq doing his thing with other women, she was smart in developing her own nest egg, and pursuing her own business interests. As much money as he makes??????? Give me a break. The divorce has nothing to do with money, and her keeping it a secret. This is an after thought.

7:45 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

No one knows what goes on behind the curtains at home. I think this is a trust thing more thing anything else. Maybe Shaq felt there wasn't enough transparency between the two and eventually caused for his curiosity to investigate the matter and unraveled a serious of discoveries. I do know this Shaq is not a Kobe-like person, he is true to himself and others.

If she did have her own agenda and ventures the least she could do was communicate it with her soul-mate whom you supposedly love, which is his very right knowing by that its his money.

11:55 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

who was shaunie oneal before shaq??? he has a right to know where all his money is. in the end who reallly made the money for her to spend? she broke the trust of shaq and that was using his money for only her gain...i know girl will take the side of a girl but damn...open ur eye's the girl had it made and she blew it...

4:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i love the line " as much money he makes" ....so what if he makes money..He is the one making it and money is money. no one wants to give it away. stupid..... if you money is so little to people then give it to her...

4:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

With Shaq signing two $100 million dollar contracts, plus ALL the endorsement deals he has, WHY WOULD SHE HAVE TO STEAL?? Now it looks like she's doing something behind his back, like setting up herself and maybe someone else... Talk to the man, I'm sure he would have been supportive, but to set up yourself and sleep with the man who's money you've spent, WITHOUT NOTIFCATION....THAT'S JUST WRONG! Her answers must have not been to good for his answer to be, I WANT A DIVORCE!

7:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Seriously, Shaq has the nerve to get mad at her when he's been screwing other women (like that nasty thang who wrote a tell all book about his itty bittyness!!) and giving away tens of thousands of dollars to his hoes?! Pleeeeaaassseee!!!! Where was all this "trust" then? What about her trust? He screwed her one way and she screw him another!!! You reap what you sew! Stop cryin' cut your losses and keep it movin'. He's going to make that back five times over so man up dude!!!

4:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

EVERYONE (media, fans, nonfans, bored people with no lives, etc.) need to mind their own business and let THEIR personal business be THEIR personal business.

4:51 AM  
Blogger Smoojazz said...

Well I think that its wrong for a person to make major decision without including your other half. Make no mistake that it takes two to make a relationship work and most times when these things happen its because there are outside factors driving that person to do that the things to make a person feel insecure money has a way of doing that so its important that both parties understand each other desire and need to feel like they are contributing to a relationship in a finacial way or get over that fact that someone is bringing home the bacon. I am a huge a Shaq fan and I home that through all this they wont become bitter for the kids sake. Sometimes relationships just don't work.

10:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Listen some of these comments are way off base. Shaunie's love for her children will still be shown through her raising them and always being the parent that was there, but if she's hiding something from the union of marrige, then she is being disceitful and ther's no way around it. What Shaq, makes is not in question, the whole world knows what he is worth. Final thought; There both cheaters so maybe you get what you give.

12:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

LOL Shaq homers will defend him through thick and thin. This is just another twist from shaq to make the other person look like the bad guy. He did it with penny,kobe,phil,and now shaunie. It amazes me that anyone is surprised by this. Shaq has always been a selfish prick,and this just further proves it. This woman was right to look out for herself in all of this. She gave shaq four kids,and stood by him through his lies about kobe,and a very nasty tell all book. We all know shaq is known as one of the biggest man whores in the league. I say go shaunie,and don't worry about shaq and his loyal following. I wouldn't be surprised if the shaq homers started threatning her.

6:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I WOULD LIKE TO RESPONT TO THE PERSON WHO SAID WHAT'S THE BIG DEAL SHAQ CHEATED ON HER. WELL SHE DECIDED TO STAY WITH HIM. OBVIOUSLY SHE DIDN'T CARE IF HE CHEATED ON HER. SHE STILL DIDN'T HAVE TO LIE AND STEAL FROM HIM. HE JUST FEEL SHE CAN'T BE TRUSTED. I BELIEVE SHE WAS GETTING READY TO MAKE HER MOVE. WHAT I MEAN LEAVING HIM

9:52 PM  
Blogger snoopy47 said...

I think Shaunie was about to leave Shaq in the twilight of his career. Some women like Shaunie - remember her first husband was paid $100,000.00 to keep their illicit affair quite - are always scheming to come out on top in everything they do. Shaq may have been naive to trust his wife to handle his finances, and Shaunie has the right to have her own assets, but why would she need to keep it a secret from Shaq if everything was above board. After all, Shaunie knew what Shaq's finances were, was'nt Shaq then - and now - entitled to know all about hers? If Shaunie was building assets on her own, why not tell Shaq that is what she wanted to do? She had that right, but something about this story stinks! I think at the end of this saga, Shaunie's financial activities and deception will prove she is the "gold digger" many people already think she is!

12:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

GOLD DIGGERRRRR! CASE DISMISSED!

5:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Its funny how everybody assumes that she was protecting herself becuase he could possibly be cheating. Did anyone consider the fact that there had already been prior rumors that she had been having an affair with her personal trainer for the past year. Maybe she was funneling some of the finances his way and Shaq caught on.

I love how when we perceive the guy cheats and the woman asks for divorce, she is protecting herself. And when the guy asks for divorce it was because she was protecting herself because he could have possibly been cheating.

8:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The fact of the matter is that she broke the trust in their relationship because she took it upon herself to make these finanacial "decisions" because she knew they would end up divorced. No loyalty=No marriage.

10:29 AM  
Blogger MS.K. LANE said...

I agree with anonymous 7:45a.m. It's not about hiding money. It's about trust. I would really like to know when the paper trail started. I bet it was after KARRINE STEFFENS described Shaq's private parts in her book and how he spent loads of cash on her. That had to be devasting for Shaunie. I can't get mad at her. She was protecting her assets. I bet she was going to file and he beat her to it so he could save face. Now Shaq is portraying her as a common thief. What was she supposed to do? Stay home and twiddle the thumbs while he messed around. Shaunie was smart! She wasn't stealing she was being focused on the BIG picture. "One day I may have to leave and raise these kids on my own."

5:52 PM  
Anonymous Menyun said...

to all of you ignorant women who think it's ok to steal from your spouse your ridiculous, all she had to do was tell him, dugh... he would have given her anything she wanted, so what if he messes around all men do it and the dumb women that leave ther spouse's because of it are stupid, do you really think the next man you get is not going to do the same thing, yeah 1 in a million get with the program. that's why this genaration only stay married for a day to one year, hell he probaly would forgive her if she had an afair it's not as bad as being a dumb thief she wasn't even smart enough to keep that a secret, hell she was set for life, now he has the option of giving her what the judge says regardless to how many kids she spit out within five years that should have told him something right there people don't have all those children like that anymore, good ritten she was probably try to get pregnant again every time she spit one out she probably said "1 million" tell me she wasn't thinking child support everytime she had a kid..hell yeah, this was her plan all along. I bet Ms Lucille new it and tried to tell her son, but he probably really loved her, hell he can have any women he want's. He promised his mom he would marry a women that looks like her (Black) now he'll probably go get a white chick now but that's ok as long as he's happy. she's still going to get paid but it will be nothing like it was if she was still Mrs Shaq. she better hope he does'nt press charges on her . He needs to get some blood test for those kids,

5:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Whoever said it was right and there happy for her is just as ignorant as she is. Think about this all the money she got she did not make on her own its shaqs money so think about this without shaq do you think she would have that money in fact without shaq would we even know shaunie no. If she thought he was cheating the why did she stay(let me awnser that because of money) she knew what she was doing and wasnt right. That money thats in the bank is his did she work he gave her everything and more how was she getting around? in the car he bought her,how was she eating? the food he was providing,how was she taking care of the kids? with his money,how was she taking care of self and keeping herself looking good in the newest cloths and stuff like that he was she had no money before shaq so how was it right to steal. If she knew he was cheating then she degraded herself for the money cause thats why she stayed. And those said it was aight for her to do that then yall should go head and be like a karrine steffens a dumb money hungry hoe and sorry to say majority r my black sistas.....ignorant

9:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yes all men do mess around, but if Shaunie had been the one messing around then what? It would have been a whole other story. Some women set the bar really low in a relationship and that is why they get dogged. Should women just be submissive and turn the their head just for the sake of money. Trust works both ways. Shaq should forgive her and try to make this work.

9:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Money hungry hoe!!!! Do you have any respect for yourself? You are the ignorant one. Try spell check the next time you send a blog.

10:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sorry I didnt mean to offend you. You must feel guilty hows my spelling now and yes money hungry hoe females call themselves independent when half of em sleep around to gain material assets once again money hungry hoe a.k.a golddiggers close ya legs and get a job

12:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

why are you worried about spell check....everyone mis types sometimes just because you wrote 4 lines, you didn't need spell check .. stay focused on the matter at hand... ignorant......

12:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well the matter at hand is was ms oneal wrong yeah. I just explained to the board how she was wrong and how most females are golddiggers a.k.a money hungry hoes cause they look for an easy way out and there way of getting out is spreading there legs. Why is it in a five year marriage they already have four kids that means every year except one they had a kid. Like I said before close ya legs and get a job or is that to hard

1:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey 1:08pm , I was responding to 1031am that was trying to dog you out, i agree with you and "menyun 5:56pm"

1:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh im sorry please forgive me

2:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think she is is ghetto and he should have never married her in the first place. the real deal is the reality that she signed a pre-nup just set in, so she figured she would hide her some funds just in case they split. when you marry under a pre-nup he must have felt this would probably happen. you can take them out the ghetto, but you can never take the ghetto out of them..

12:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Bottom line she was dead wrong! If she felt the need to hide assests obvisouly she didn't not believe that the marriage would work and she had other motives all alone. He as ever right to be upset- he trusted her and she lied and betrayed him, bottom line- She got greedy and greed gets you no where... I mean what was her real need to do that- was she hidding her own assests she obtained before entering into the marriage- or was she simplying stealing- I mean come on-- it is obvious that if she had to hide assests it wasn't her money she was hiding...

8:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think she is a thief and a dumb one at that. Why in the hell would you steal from someone when you have it all already. Me being a female I think she should have grown and got out of that ghetto way of thinking, get all you can and he don't need to know about other accounts. My thing is don't steal the money when you already have full access to the money, now you jeopardize losing your family for what. Yeah you will still be paid due to child support but man theres so much more.

8:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I totally understand why he is so upset, his wife and life partner has outside venture that were obviously not ont the up and up. Why would she have to keep secrets from the man who gets her everything she could possibly want. I guess she really is a gold digger, but he should have been smarter, why else would they have so many kids in 5 years, c'mon, shes jus maximizing the child support and alimony or whatever she can get when its over.

1:30 PM  
Anonymous Byrdeye said...

Fool should have said NO to legalized slavery (marriage)!

FAIL!

5:03 PM  

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